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How can I find inclusive childcare options for my children, where they will be safe and supported as part of a queer family?

Hi everyone,

I'm a single parent and a member of the LGBTQ+ community, and I'm currently looking for inclusive childcare options for my children. I'm worried about discriminations or prejudices that my children might face due to our queer family status, so safety and support are my top priorities. Can anyone recommend some LGBTQ+ friendly childcare centers or providers in our area? I live in a relatively small town, so online resources would also be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance for your help!

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Hello everyone,

I am a transgender parent, and I have faced significant challenges when looking for inclusive childcare. Based on my experience, I recommend doing thorough research on a childcare center and its staff to ensure they are inclusive of all genders and gender expressions. This includes inspecting their policies to see if they have guidelines on gender-inclusive terminology and behavior, such as using gender-neutral pronouns and allowing children to express themselves as they please. Moreover, it's crucial to have an open dialogue with staff members and ask the tough questions, such as how they would handle conflict involving gender identities or expressions. As a transgender parent, I have had to be extra vigilant about ensuring that my children are in accepting and inclusive environments; however, with careful research and open communication, it is possible to find inclusive childcare.


Hi there,

I completely understand the concerns of finding inclusive childcare options as a queer family. When I was searching for a daycare for my child, I focused on finding one that was accredited by organizations that support diversity and inclusivity such as the National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC). These organizations ensure that providers meet certain education and training requirements, and follow non-discrimination policies that welcome all families. Additionally, it may be useful to ask other parents for recommendations or ask your provider if they have any diversity education programs or LGBTQ+ inclusive policies. It can be a bit of a process, but finding an inclusive provider not only ensures your child's safety, but also provides a nurturing and supportive environment for all families.


Hi there,

I agree that finding inclusive childcare can be challenging, but it's essential to ensure our children's wellbeing. When I was looking for a childcare center, I sought those that had staff members who had undergone diversity, equity, and inclusion training. This training equips the staff to understand the unique challenges and needs of LGBTQ+ families and provide adequate support. Additionally, I prioritized centers that had openly embraced LGBTQ+ families, either with changes to their curriculum or having diverse books and pictures around the facility. In my experience, centers that openly show their commitment to diversity tend to be the safest for our children. It can be a lengthy process to find inclusive childcare, but as queer parents, we must prioritize our children's safety and support them adequately.


Hello everyone,

I'm a same-sex parent to twins, and for us, the most important factor in finding inclusive childcare was the communication between us and the staff. We wanted to create a relationship with the staff that went beyond the brief drop off and pickup times. We scheduled tours of the centers, met with the caregivers, and even observed the activities they had planned for the day. This gave us an idea of how the staff interacted with the children and how they integrated diversity into their program. We looked for centers that allowed for two caregivers to be present during pick-ups and drop-offs, and where we were made to feel included in their activities. Our chosen centers encouraged parental involvement and offered ongoing communication through notes or emails on the activities or the progress of our children. We found that creating an open discourse at the outset allowed the center and us as parents to develop a more supportive and inclusive relationship.


Hey there!

I understand the struggle of finding inclusive childcare as a queer parent. In my experience, talking to other LGBTQ+ parents in your area could also help in finding the right provider. You can try to connect with them through social media groups or local support groups. They might have personal recommendations or experiences that they can share with you. Another option is to also look for childcare centers or providers that have non-discrimination policies or are affiliated with organizations that promote diversity and inclusivity. It could also help to directly discuss your concerns with the prospective provider and ask about their policies and practices regarding LGBTQ+ families. I know it can be a daunting process, but it's worth it to ensure the safety and comfort of your children.


Hi everyone,

As a queer parent, I found that looking for childcare providers that offered flexible schedules was vital. Many queer families, including my own, have non-traditional work hours and may require care outside the usual 9-5 schedule. It's essential to find a provider that can accommodate your family's schedule, and it shows that the provider is willing to cater to diverse family structures. Additionally, I looked for providers that had a mixed age group in their care centers. Centers with mixed-age groups foster a family-like atmosphere and allow for more natural interactions between children of different ages and backgrounds. When we were considering care providers, we also looked for ones with a dedicated outdoor play area and one that gave enough time for the children to interact with nature. Overall, it's important to find care providers that accommodate your family's unique schedule and have a program that offers experiences that align with your family values.


As a queer parent, I have faced similar concerns when it comes to finding safe and inclusive childcare for my children. What has worked for me is reaching out to my local LGBTQ+ center and asking for recommendations. They have a list of resources, including childcare providers who have participated in LGBTQ+ sensitivity training and are open-minded and supportive of diverse family structures. Additionally, looking for childcare centers or providers that have visible affirmations of inclusivity, such as rainbow flags or diverse books and toys, can also be a good indicator. Good luck in your search, I hope you find a welcoming and safe environment for your little ones!


Hello everyone,

As a queer parent, I know firsthand how important it is to find a safe and welcoming childcare center. I found that doing a trial run at the center before committing was helpful. This allowed me to assess if the center not only accepted my family but also celebrated diversity in their policies and curriculum. It also gave me a chance to talk to staff about potential situations that could arise and how they would handle them. In some cases, I found that centers that had an overtly inclusive environment weren't actually as accepting as I thought once I had those critical conversations. A trial run may seem intrusive, but finding the right fit is essential, and it’s worth taking the time to find the best possible experience for your family.

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