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How can I encourage my toddler to be more independent?

Hi everyone,

I have a 2-year-old toddler who always wants me to do everything for her. It's becoming quite exhausting and I'm worried that she's not developing enough independence. I want to encourage her to do things on her own but she often gets frustrated easily and gives up quickly.

I'm looking for some tips on how I can encourage her to be more independent without pushing her too hard or making her feel overwhelmed. Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated! Thank you in advance.

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Hi there,

I totally get how it feels to have a toddler who wants you to do everything for them. I had a similar experience with my 2-year-old. What really helped me encourage independence is to set up a routine. When my little one knows what to expect, it makes them feel more confident and able to do things on their own.

I also started to involve my toddler in daily chores such as putting toys away, feeding the pets, and helping me with cooking (simple tasks like pouring and mixing). This helped develop her motor skills, confidence, and a sense of responsibility.

Another thing that seems to work for us is gradually increasing the number of independent tasks your toddler does. Start with small steps such as putting their shoes on, cleaning up their toys, and gradually move up to bigger responsibilities that they can handle. Take things one step at a time, and soon enough, your toddler will feel more confident and proud of themselves for being more independent.

Remember that every child is unique, and it's essential to be patient and supportive during the process. Cheer them on, and let them know how proud you are of their efforts. It takes time and effort, but it's so worth it to see your little one grow to become more independent.



I have a 2-year-old daughter who can relate to your situation. One trick that has worked for us is to provide a flexible yet structured routine. This allows my daughter to understand what is expected of her during the day and what tasks she is responsible for. However, the routine must be flexible enough to accommodate any spontaneous activities that may arise.

Another strategy that has helped us grow our toddler's independence is to introduce new activities in a playful way. For instance, I allowed her to practice brushing her teeth with a toy toothbrush or by taking turns helping me stir ingredients in a sensory bin. It helps her develop her fine motor skills, and she also enjoys the activity.

When it comes to making decisions, we encourage our daughter to think for herself by regularly offering choices related to the task she is doing. For instance, I ask her to choose which toy to pack away first or which color plate to choose for her snack time. By doing this, she learns how to turn her desires into decision-making skills.

Lastly, we encourage experimentation and problem-solving in a supportive way. We offer encouragement when she gets frustrated and continually reassure her that mistakes are part of learning.

Good luck on your parenting journey!


Hi there,

As a mom of a 2-year-old, I understand how important it is to develop independence in toddlers. One approach that works for us is setting realistic expectations. Toddlers learn at different rates and excel in different ways, so it's important to keep that in mind when setting expectations for their independence.

Another method that worked well for encouraging independence is by allowing our daughter to help with household chores. She enjoys helping me bake cookies or folding laundry. These activities help improve her motor skills, and it's a great bonding experience too.

Encouraging self-care is also crucial in promoting independence. For example, we encourage her to brush her teeth, comb her hair, and dress herself. We stay close by to offer help and guidance if she needs it, and we offer praise anytime she does something independently.

Finally, we allow our toddler to express her feelings and emotions. It’s essential to give them space to do things independently and express their creative side. Encourage them to play, paint, and create in whatever way they choose.

In summary, promoting independence in toddlers can be achieved by setting expectations, allowing them to help with household chores, encouraging self-care, and allowing them to express their creativity.

Best wishes!


Hey there,

I can totally relate to the struggle of encouraging independence in a toddler. My advice is to create a safe environment where your little one can explore and take risks without getting hurt. A safe environment can include items such as soft play mats, child-friendly furniture, and easily accessible toys without sharp edges.

Also, let your toddler learn from their mistakes. It can be tempting to jump in and help them complete a task, but it's essential that you allow them to learn from their mistakes. Sometimes my son would try to put on his shirt backward or his shoes on the wrong feet, and instead of correcting him, I let him figure it out on his own. By trial and error, they eventually figure out how to do things right.

Lastly, you can also establish clear boundaries and routines to create an orderly and consistent household. Make sure your little one knows the expectations for how to manage their toys, how many books they can read before bed, and what time they need to wake up in the morning. By creating these boundaries, you help them develop discipline and a sense of responsibility.

In summary, allowing them to explore a safe environment, learning from their mistakes, and setting boundaries are all excellent ways to encourage independence in your toddler.

Hope this helps!


Hi there,

As a parent of a 3-year-old, I completely understand your situation. For me, the key to encouraging independence in my toddler has been to give her choices. For instance, I let her choose her clothes in the morning or pick out what she wants to eat for breakfast. These small decisions have helped her feel more in control and confident in her abilities.

I also try to avoid doing everything for her. When she wants me to get her a toy or a snack, I ask her to try and get it herself first. If she struggles, I'll help her, but I try to give her the chance to do it on her own first.

It's important to remember that it's okay if your toddler gets frustrated or gives up sometimes. Independence is a skill that takes time to develop, and it's natural for toddlers to feel overwhelmed or unsure at times. Keep encouraging and supporting your little one, and remember to celebrate their victories, no matter how small they may seem.

Hope this helps!



As a parent to a nearly 4-year-old, encouraging independence is a top priority for me, too. One of the strategies that has worked well for us is modeling independence ourselves. Children take cues from their parents or caregivers, so when we model independence in our daily lives, that can motivate our little ones towards independence too.

We give our toddler low-risk responsibilities like picking out their clothes or shoes, grabbing their own snacks, and running simple errands around the house. We encourage and praise him when he completes these tasks on his own.

We also allow him to make choices and decisions whenever possible. Giving options can encourage decision-making skills and fosters a sense of independence. For example, we allow our son to choose the book for storytime or to pick the color of his sippy cup.

At the end of the day, it is important to strike a balance between supporting your toddler and encouraging their growth towards independence. It’s a difficult balance to maintain, but by observing your child's habits and preferences, you can tailor your support to your child's requirements.

I hope this helps!

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