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How can I encourage my preteen to be more involved in their community and give back to society?

Hi everyone,

I am a concerned parent of a preteen who seems to only be interested in hanging out with friends and playing video games. As a parent, I strongly believe in the value of giving back to the community and helping those in need. However, I'm struggling to find ways to motivate my child to become more involved in community service and volunteer work.

I believe that getting involved in community service can help my child gain a sense of purpose and accomplishment, and also teach them important life skills such as teamwork, leadership, and empathy. Additionally, it would provide a great opportunity for my child to meet new people and make friends who share similar values and interests.

So, I was wondering if anyone has any advice on how I can encourage my preteen to become more involved in community service? What are some ways that I can make it more appealing to them? Any ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

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Hello everyone,

I'd like to share what worked for me in getting my preteen son to be more involved in his community - and that was simply to lead by example.

As parents, we have the power to influence our children in positive ways, and showing our kids that we are invested in making a difference can go a long way. I started volunteering regularly at a food bank and local charity events, and my son would often accompany me. Seeing the work I was doing and how much it meant to me eventually piqued his interest as well.

What really helped was once we found an organization that my son was passionate about, we started volunteering there together regularly. This helped us bond and allowed my son to feel like he was making a genuine contribution while spending quality time with me.

Another approach that worked well for us was to set specific goals for volunteering. At the beginning of each year, we would discuss how many hours we wanted to volunteer or how many different causes we wanted to get involved in. Having a clear goal helped my son to stay motivated and feel proud when he reached it.

In conclusion, leading by example can be an effective way to inspire preteens to become involved in the community. By showing our children how fulfilling it can be to give back and involving them in our own volunteer work, we can help instill a sense of purpose and responsibility that will stay with them for years to come.


Hi there!

As someone who has successfully encouraged their preteen to get more involved in their community, I'd love to share what worked for me.

Firstly, I found that it was important to identify causes or organizations that my child was personally passionate about. For instance, my child was always interested in animal welfare, so we started volunteering at our local animal shelter together. This made the experience more enjoyable for my child and sparked a sense of purpose in them.

Additionally, I made sure to emphasize the impact that their work was having on the community. We would research statistics or stories about the positive effects of the organization we were helping, and this helped my child to see how their actions were making a difference.

Another thing that worked well was involving their friends. I organized group volunteer sessions with my child's friends and their families, and this made the experience more social and fun for my child. They enjoyed working alongside their friends, and it also gave them a sense of pride to have their friends see them in a leadership role.

Lastly, I made sure to praise and acknowledge my child's efforts. I would tell them how proud I was of them and how much I appreciated their hard work. This positive reinforcement helped to motivate them to continue their involvement, and also boosted their confidence and self-esteem.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to other parents looking to encourage their preteen to get involved in their community!


Hello everyone,

I'm here to share my experience on how I got my preteen more involved in their community.

One thing that worked really well for me was to include the whole family in volunteering activities. We all participated in a local food drive where we packed and distributed food to people in need. By involving my preteen in this activity, I showed them how important it is to give back to the community and how people from all walks of life can come together to make a difference.

Another approach that worked was to provide a variety of options for volunteering. My preteen was able to choose between different causes and organizations so that they could find something that sparked their interest. They ended up helping out at a local children's hospital by organizing a toy drive. This allowed them to interact with children their own age and learn the value of giving back.

Finally, I made sure to emphasize how volunteering can benefit their future. I talked about how volunteer work is looked at favorably by colleges and employers and how it can help build their resume. This helped my preteen to view volunteering as more than just an obligation, but also as an investment in their own future.

I hope these tips are helpful to other parents looking to encourage their children to get involved in their community!


Hello everyone,

As a fellow parent who was also struggling to motivate my preteen to become more involved in community service and volunteer work, I found that one way to get them excited was to show them how volunteering can be fun.

Rather than focusing on the "work" aspect of volunteering, I looked for opportunities that were unique and memorable. For example, my kid loves music, so we volunteered for an organization that puts on live music events for charity. There were opportunities to help with everything from putting up decorations to selling merchandise, and they got to enjoy the music while doing it.

Another thing that really helped was to give my child some ownership over the experience. I let them choose the organization they wanted to volunteer with and encouraged them to take the lead on planning and organizing volunteer activities. This helped them to feel more invested in the work and also gave them a sense of responsibility.

Finally, I made sure to discuss the positive impact that volunteering can have on the community, but also on their own personal growth. I talked to my child about how volunteering can help them build valuable skills and develop as a person. This helped to make the work feel more meaningful and important to them.

In summary, it's all about finding ways to make volunteering fun and engaging. By getting your child invested in the work and empowering them to take the lead, you can help turn volunteering into a fulfilling and enjoyable experience for them.


Hi everyone,

I'm here to share my experience of how I encouraged my preteen to become more involved in community service and give back to society.

One of the most successful methods I found was to make volunteering a family activity. By getting involved in volunteer work together, not only did we get to spend time as a family, but it also made the process more enjoyable and meaningful for my child. We participated in a variety of volunteer opportunities ranging from serving meals at a shelter to organizing fundraising events for local charities.

Another effective way we got my preteen involved was by letting them use their skills and interests to contribute meaningfully. For instance, my child was really into art, so we found opportunities for them to volunteer their time creating murals for public spaces. By allowing my child to use their skills in a meaningful way, they truly felt like they were making a difference.

We also made sure to celebrate our accomplishments along the way, whether it was a successful fundraiser or finishing a service project. This kept our child motivated and gave them a sense of pride in their accomplishments.

Lastly, we encouraged our child to invite friends to volunteer alongside us. This helped them to broaden their social circles and start conversations about giving back to the community. Seeing their peers engaged in community service also provided a positive impact on my child's mentality and encouraged them to continue volunteering.

In conclusion, by involving my preteen in family-oriented volunteer work, letting them use and develop their unique attributes, celebrating manageable milestones, and encouraging them to invite friends, I succeeded in inspiring them to volunteer regularly.


Hello everyone,

I wanted to contribute to this thread by sharing how I was able to get my preteen to be more involved in volunteer work through collaboration via school organizations.

My child was always hesitant to volunteer because they didn't want to do it alone. One day, their school announced that they would be organizing a community service project which allowed students to volunteer in groups with their friends. The variety of volunteer options offered meant that each group could choose to work with an organization that they felt passionate about. My child and their friends chose to work with a community kitchen, where they spent time preparing meals for the homeless.

What I loved about this experience was that there was a palpable sense of camaraderie and team collaboration amongst the students. They were excited to spend time with their friends while doing good for others, and it gave them a sense of pride in their ability to contribute. It also inspired my child to see so many of their peers involved and helping out, which motivated them to stay involved even after the project ended.

Another approach that worked for my preteen was giving them recognition for their volunteer work. I would make sure to publicly acknowledge when my child had volunteered their time, even if it was for something small. This helped reinforce to them that their work was valued, and it encouraged them to continue engaging in community service.

Overall, I believe that making volunteering a social experience by collaborating through school organizations can really encourage preteens to get involved in community service. I hope this helps other parents looking for ways to motivate their child to give back to society.


Hello everyone,

As a parent, I know firsthand how difficult it can be to motivate your preteen to get involved in their community. However, when my child expressed interest in the environment, I knew I had found a way to get them more engaged in community service.

We started off by doing things as simple as picking up trash at city parks and hiking trails. We discussed the importance of keeping our environment safe and healthy for future generations. Gradually, we expanded our work to bigger projects like planting trees and tending to native gardens. My child enjoyed seeing the progress and the tangible difference they were making in nature.

One thing that helped us along the way was finding organizations with volunteer opportunities that fit our schedule. For example, we found a nature reserve that fits our weekend schedules perfectly which my child loved because they got to learn about and see different animals.

Another approach was to help my child see the potential in themselves. We talked about how they could be a leader and inspire other kids to join in helping the environment. Seeing my child take ownership of the projects and getting other students and parents involved was rewarding.

In conclusion, by finding a cause or organization that your preteen is truly passionate about, you are more likely to succeed in getting them more involved in the community. It takes patience, courage, and creativity to encourage them to see the value in it, but by helping to connect the work to something they care about, you can make it seem less like work and more like fun.


Hello everyone,

I'd like to offer my personal experience on how I got my preteen daughter to be more involved in her community.

What worked for me was to involve her in volunteer work that aligned with her interests. My daughter was always interested in fashion and clothing, so we volunteered at a non-profit thrift store that sells gently used clothing to low-income families. She enjoyed organizing the clothing and felt like she was making a real impact at the store. By finding a volunteer opportunity that connects with one's pre-existing interests, you increase the chance of them finding and enjoying the experience.

To further motivate her, I found opportunities where she could work with people of different backgrounds. For example, we volunteered at a food bank where she was able to interact and work alongside people from different ethnic backgrounds. This allowed her to learn about different cultures and lifestyles, which both boosted her awareness and compassion for other communities.

Another thing I did was to make sure to link volunteer work to a reward of some sort. This could be as little as a favorite meal or activity after volunteering, but it helped to give her something to look forward to after the day's work. Celebrating small successes is just as important as tackling larger ones.

In summary, by linking volunteering to her interests, surrounding her with diverse people, and rewarding her efforts, I made volunteering more meaningful and engaging to her. It allowed her to build new skills, meet new people, and gave her a sense of purpose in helping others.

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