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How can I discipline my child without resorting to punishment or physical force?

Hi everyone, I'm a new mom and I'm trying to learn how to be a good parent to my little one. I've read a lot about the negative effects of punishment and physical force on children's self-esteem and overall wellbeing, and I want to avoid those methods altogether. However, I'm struggling to figure out how to discipline my child without resorting to those tactics. I want to teach my child right from wrong, but I don't want to make them feel scared or belittled in the process. Any tips or advice on how to discipline my child in a positive and effective way would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

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Hi there, I totally get where you are coming from. I was also hesitant about using punishment or physical force when it came to disciplining my child. In such situations, I found that it works well to redirect my child's attention instead of punishing. When my child does something that is not quite right, I redirect their attention to something more desirable or offer a better option.

For example, if my child is throwing tantrums because they are tired, instead of punishing or time-outs, I try to calmly talk to them about their feelings and help them find a better way to express their feelings like taking a break or deep breathing.

Above everything else, I try to be a role model for my child by modeling positive behaviors like calm communication, empathy, kindness, and respect. This has helped me teach my child what's right and wrong effectively without any harsh punishments.

In conclusion, find a technique that suits you and your child best, and always remember to lead by example.


Hi there, I can definitely understand the struggle you're facing as a new mom. I also want to avoid punishment and physical force when disciplining my child. Something that has worked well for me is using positive reinforcement instead. When my child does something good, I make sure to praise them and give them lots of positive attention. I also try to set clear boundaries and expectations for their behavior, and explain why those boundaries are important.

If my child does something inappropriate or wrong, I will calmly explain why it's not acceptable and offer a consequence that is logical and related to the behavior. For example, if my child throws a toy, I might take the toy away for a period of time to help them understand that throwing things is not okay.

Another thing that has helped me is being consistent with my discipline. This can be tough, but it's important to follow through with the consequences if the behavior continues. I also try to stay calm and avoid getting frustrated or angry, as that can make the situation worse.

Overall, I've found that taking a positive and empathetic approach to discipline has been effective in teaching my child right from wrong without resorting to punishment or physical force.


Hello there, I've had my experience with avoiding punishment or physical force when disciplining my child, and it has worked for me. I believe in leading by examples, being patient, and being clear about the rules in the house.

Whenever my child misbehaves, I find it helpful to sit them down and let them understand what they did wrong, the reason it isn't desirable, and its effect on them and people around them. I make it a two-way conversation by allowing them to express their feelings and point of view.

I also try to make it that their discipline matches their development while adjusting my expectations along with it. For example, if my child is very young, I shouldn't expect them to sit still at the dinner table for hours.

Finally, I avoid making empty threats and ensure accountability by following through with the rules set out. I try to help them understand that taking responsibility for our actions is a life lesson to have.

In summary, having clear-cut rules, having conversations, understanding their development levels, and following through with the rules has helped me discipline my child without punishing them physically or through yelling or anger.


Hello everyone, I appreciate this question as it's a common concern for parents in the upbringing of their children. I always believe in nurturing my child's self-esteem and confidence, so I avoid punishment or physical force when disciplining them.

One technique that has worked well for me has been to use empathy and active listening when my child does something wrong. I ask them questions, listen carefully, and then offer them alternative ways to handle the situation that will give them a better outcome in the future.

I have also found that setting up clear expectations and boundaries with my child has been beneficial. For instance, letting them know what they should expect when they don't follow these boundaries will help them be more mindful of their actions.

When my child behaves well, I praise and reward them to motivate and encourage more good behavior. I have also learned that consistency and an open line of communication have been paramount in my strategies.

In summary, active listening, empathy, setting boundaries, praising, rewarding, and consistency are techniques that have helped me in disciplining my child without resorting to punishment or physical-force.


Hi, as a parent, I can relate to your concern. I also avoid punishment or physical force in disciplining my child. I realized that adapting a positive reinforcement approach to disciplining my child helps to build their character positively.

To help me achieve this, I set out specific goals for my child while creating fun learning experiences for them to achieve these goals. For example, I encourage my child to follow directions, respect adults, and be responsible for their commitments. When they achieve these goals, I show them appreciation through words of affirmations and sometimes, simple prizes.

Whenever my child acts out, I remain calm, express my concern while still motivating them to turn the situation around. However, I do not ignore when they are wrong or make a mistake, instead of finding alternative ways to gain their attention.

In conclusion, creating learning experiences with the use of positive rewards and motivators has helped me discipline my child without using drastic measures like punishment or physical-force. The idea is to help your child develop a healthy self-esteem and encourage positive outcomes through the reinforcement of desirable behaviors.

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