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How can I discipline my child when they are not following household rules?

Hi everyone,

I am a mother of a 7-year-old child who has been constantly breaking household rules. Despite my efforts to teach him right from wrong, he seems to be lacking discipline and is not following any of the rules that we have set for him.

For instance, he is always leaving his toys lying around, doesn't clean up after himself, and refuses to complete his homework. As a result, our home looks untidy and it takes a lot of time and effort to get things organized.

I have tried everything from giving him time-outs to scolding him, but nothing seems to be working. I am at my wit's end and don't know what to do to teach him discipline.

Therefore, I am reaching out to this forum to get some advice on how to discipline my child effectively when he does not follow the household rules. I would appreciate any tips or strategies that have worked for you in similar situations.

Thank you in advance!

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I have a 6-year-old child who, like many other kids, finds it challenging to follow household rules, especially when it comes to their daily routine. I found it helpful to create a routine chart displaying the necessary activities that my child needs to perform every day.

For example, brushing teeth, taking a shower, making the bed, homework, and other essential activities. I also added some fun activities like outdoor games, coloring, or storytime. This chart helps my child understand what is expected of them every day and makes it easier for them to remember and follow the routine.

I noticed that when my child follows the routine chart and performs the required activities, it gives them a sense of accomplishment and responsibility. Moreover, it has made my life easier because it saves me time from reminding and repeating instructions.

To wrap it up, I would suggest trying out a routine chart to help your child follow household rules. It not only teaches discipline but also makes it a fun activity for the child.



I completely understand the struggles you have been facing with your child not following household rules. I have been in the same position and have found that positive reinforcement has been effective in disciplining my children.

When my children follow the rules, I make sure to praise and acknowledge them for their good behavior. For instance, when my child cleans up their toys as directed, I compliment them and let them know how proud I am of them.

This approach has helped encourage them to continue following the rules and to take pride in their responsibilities. Furthermore, it has strengthened our bond and improved communication as my children see me as someone who values and acknowledges their positive efforts.

In conclusion, positive reinforcement has helped me discipline my children effectively without necessarily resorting to strict punishment. It has fostered a positive environment that encourages good behavior and helped me save time and energy on conflicts that could arise due to not following household rules.



I can definitely empathize with your situation as I have gone through similar challenges with my child. One approach that I found helpful is to involve my child in decision-making processes.

Asking my child for suggestions and involving them in making decisions on matters that affect them has made them feel more responsible and mature. For instance, we discuss and agree on rules together, and my child understands the consequences of breaking them.

By involving my child in decision-making, it helps them understand better the expectations and makes it easier for them to follow the rules set in place. This is because they feel more responsible and understand that the rules were made with their best interest in mind.

As a result, they are more likely to follow the rules and take ownership of their actions, making it easier to discipline them when they fail to follow the rules.

I hope this approach works for you too. Remember, every child is different, and there is no one size fits all approach to discipline. You have to identify what works best for your child and what aligns with your values as a parent.


Hi there,

I can definitely relate to your situation as I have also faced similar challenges with my child in the past. One strategy that has worked for me is creating a reward system for good behavior.

I have a chart on my fridge with my child's name on it, and every time he completes a task on the household rules list, he gets a sticker. When he reaches a certain number of stickers, he gets a small reward like a toy or a treat.

This has helped to motivate him to follow the rules and take responsibility for his actions. It has also made it easier for me to communicate my expectations and reinforce positive behavior.

Another approach that has worked for me is setting consequences for negative behavior. For example, if my child does not clean up his toys after playing, he loses screen time or a privilege like going to the park.

It's important to establish consequences that are appropriate and consistent. Also, it's essential to explain the reasoning behind the punishment so that your child can learn from their mistakes and make better choices in the future.

I hope these tips will help you in disciplining your child effectively. Remember, consistency is key, and it takes time and patience to teach a child discipline. Good luck!



I have a 9-year-old child who has also been struggling to follow household rules. One approach that has helped me is to set clear expectations and consequences for breaking the rules.

For instance, I explain what is expected of them, and when they break the rules, they lose certain privileges. However, I also make sure to give them a warning before imposing consequences as it instills a sense of fair play, and they have a chance to correct their behavior.

Clear expectations and consequences work because it helps your child understand the importance of following the rules and the impact it has on the household. They are more likely to follow the rules when they know what is expected of them and the consequences that come with not following them.

Another principle that has helped me is consistency. Children need consistency to understand that certain behaviors are unacceptable. So, it is essential to be consistent with the rules and consequences.

In conclusion, setting clear expectations and consequences and being consistent with them can help you discipline your child effectively. It may take time, but with patience and discipline, your child will understand the importance of following household rules.


Hi there,

I have a 5-year-old child who has been struggling to follow household rules. One strategy that has worked for me is using positive affirmations to encourage and motivate my child.

I make sure to use positive affirmations like "You are a responsible child," "You are doing a great job following the rules," "I am proud of you for completing your homework."

These affirmations have helped to build my child's self-esteem and confidence, and they know that their efforts are appreciated. When children feel appreciated, they are more likely to repeat the behavior and become more responsible.

On the other hand, when I need to impose consequences for not following the rules, I do it with empathy and understanding. I try to explain the reason why their behavior is unacceptable, and the negative impact it has on the household. It helps them understand that their actions have consequences and encourages them to be more responsible.

In conclusion, using positive affirmations, and showing empathy when imposing consequences can help you discipline your child effectively. Remember, discipline involves helping your child develop good behavior to become responsible adults.



I can absolutely understand your struggle as I have experienced similar issues with my child. One effective approach that worked for me is providing choices for my child within the parameters of household rules.

For instance, instead of giving orders, I offer choices that still achieve the same goal. For example, instead of saying "clean up the toys," I would say, "would you like to pick up the toys by yourself or with me?" This gives my child a feeling of control and independence and helps them understand that they have some control over their activities.

Although they are still following the household rules, they feel like they have a choice, which minimizes conflict and promotes positive relationships. It also encourages them to take responsibility for their actions and understand the consequences of their decision.

In conclusion, giving your child choices can encourage a sense of responsibility and promote positive relationships in the family. It is an effective approach, and I hope it works for you too.



I have been struggling with the same issue with my 8-year-old son for a while now, and one approach that has worked for me is having family meetings weekly or bi-weekly to discuss household rules and expectations.

During these meetings, we sit down as a family and discuss the rules, what they mean, and why we have them. Then, we allow everyone to share their thoughts and ideas on how to improve and make the household run smoothly.

This approach has helped my child understand the importance of following the rules and has also made him feel more responsible and involved in our family's daily activities.

Additionally, I have found that modeling good behavior is effective in teaching our children discipline. Kids are more likely to follow the rules when they see their parents doing the same.

So, I try to lead by example and ensure that I model the behavior that I want to see in my child. If I expect him to clean up after himself, I make sure to do the same, and he follows suit.

Overall, I think having weekly family meetings and modeling good behavior have helped me teach my child discipline and create a harmonious household.

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