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How can I discipline my child effectively without resorting to yelling or shouting?

Hi everyone,

I am a concerned parent and I need some advice on how to discipline my child effectively without losing my temper and resorting to yelling or shouting. My child is a very active and curious individual who can sometimes get into trouble or misbehave. However, as much as I want to teach him right from wrong and instill discipline, I find myself feeling frustrated and overwhelmed whenever he does something wrong.

I do not want to continue yelling or shouting at my child as I think that it is not effective and can potentially damage our relationship in the long run. I want to find a better way to discipline my child that he will respond positively to and that will not make him resentful towards me.

Does anyone have any tips or strategies that they have found useful when it comes to disciplining children without shouting or yelling? I would really appreciate it if you could share your experiences or insights with me. Thank you!

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Hi there,

I had a lot of trouble with yelling at my children when they misbehaved, but I found that taking a moment to compose myself before responding to the situation helped a lot. When my child does something wrong, I take a deep breath and count to ten before speaking to him. This has helped me remain calm and avoid yelling or shouting at my child.

Another approach I take is to have a conversation with my child instead of just doling out punishment. I try to understand why my child behaved in a certain way and explain why it was wrong. We also discuss what could have been done differently in the situation. This not only teaches my child right from wrong but also strengthens our bond as a family.

I have also found that positive reinforcement is a great way to encourage good behavior. Whenever my child does something positive or behaves well, I make sure to praise him and let him know that his behavior was appreciated. This helps to build his confidence and reinforces positive behavior.

Lastly, setting clear expectations and boundaries early on has helped me reduce the frequency of disciplining my child altogether. This way, my child knows what is expected of him and what the consequences of his actions will be.

I hope these tips help you as much as they have helped me. Good luck!


Hello everyone,

When it comes to disciplining my child, I make sure to use positive language instead of negative language. This means that instead of telling my child what not to do, I focus on telling her what she should do. For example, instead of saying "Don't hit your sister", I say "Show kindness to your sister."

I try to get down to my child's level when I talk to her, this helps to show that I am interested in what she has to say and it builds trust. Moreover, I use a calm and assertive tone, which helps her to know that I mean what I say, without the need for yelling or shouting.

Another approach I use is redirection. I try to find a positive alternative for my child whenever she is misbehaving. For instance, if she is throwing a tantrum and refusing to put away her toys, I suggest that we play a game that involves cleaning up toys or I sing a fun cleaning-up song. This helps to shift her focus, and she often forgets about her negative behaviour.

Last but not least, attending to the emotional needs of my child helps in reducing the frequency of misbehaviours, which consequently reduces the need to resort to yelling or shouting. Whenever she is upset or stressed, I take the time to listen, validate her feelings and offer solutions. By doing so, she feels seen and heard, and as a result, she is less prone to negative behaviour.

I hope these strategies can help someone!


Hello everyone,

When it comes to disciplinary actions, I’ve found that using natural consequences can be effective without resorting to yelling or shouting. For example, if my child leaves his toys out in the rain, I will explain to him that they will be ruined because of the rain. This natural consequence is a teaching opportunity for my child; therefore, I don't need to yell or shout to get the message across.

Another approach I take is to enforce rewards that promote positive behaviour. This could be in the form of a simple "good job" or even more significant rewards, like extra playtime or a small treat for completing chores or good grades. Positive reinforcement has been an effective way to encourage good behaviour, and I have found my child responds well to this.

In addition, I have also found it helpful to give my child a choice when it comes to disciplinary actions. For example, if my child had a temper tantrum at the playground, I might give her a choice of taking a break for five minutes or leaving the playground altogether. This approach helps my child feel that she is involved in the decision-making process, which can be much more effective and less confrontational.

Lastly, I believe that consistency is the key to successful behavioural management. Consistency in the rules and their consequences gives your child a clear understanding of what is expected of them. When children know what to expect, it is easier for them to understand the reasons for the rules, and they are less likely to misbehave.

I hope my experience can help you in some way.


Hey there,

When it comes to disciplining my child, I've found that taking a gentle approach has worked wonders for us. Instead of yelling or shouting, I try to use a calm, reassuring voice while explaining to my child what he has done wrong and why it's unacceptable.

I also try to stay consistent with the consequences of his actions. For example, if I've warned him that if he doesn't clean up his toys, he won't be able to watch a show, I follow through on the consequence without raising my voice or getting angry.

Additionally, I've found that involving my child in the process of setting boundaries and consequences has been helpful. This way, he feels like he has a say in the matter and is more likely to understand and follow them. Depending on the age of your child, you can explain to them why certain behaviors are not acceptable and work together to come up with a consequence that feels appropriate.

Lastly, I try to end disciplinary conversations on a positive note. By reminding him that he is a good kid and that we still love him, I reassure him that we are not attacking his character, but rather addressing specific behaviors that need to be changed.

I hope these tips help you as much as they've helped me. Good luck!


Hi All,

I found that time-outs were helpful in avoiding yelling or shouting while disciplining my child. Whenever my child's behaviour was not acceptable, I would calmly explain to her why her behaviour was wrong and then place her in a designated space for a short period of time to calm down, think about her actions, and how she could improve them in the future.

Additionally, I found it useful to model the behaviour I expect from my child. When she would do something wrong and I found my frustration level rising, I would take a break, take a deep breath and think before I reacted. This not only helped me in avoiding yelling or shouting, but it also helped me to be a good role model for my child.

Moreover, during times that she displayed positive behaviours, I took the time to offer encouragement, praise and positive feedback. Children have a need for attention, and if it is not given, they may start to misbehave in search of it.

Lastly, I would suggest that another effective way of disciplining children without yelling or shouting is to establish routines and structure in a child’s life. This can include setting limits on screen time, bedtimes, and homework. By sticking to the rules, it sends a message to the child that there are expectations in the house which cannot be ignored.

I hope these tips help!

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