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Can anyone share their experiences of balancing work and parenting as a queer parent, and any advice for managing the competing demands?

Hi everyone,

I am a queer parent of a 2-year-old toddler and I am struggling to balance work and parenting. As a queer parent, I face some unique challenges in terms of balancing work and caring for my child. I am hoping to hear from other queer parents who have been in a similar situation and how they manage to balance both.

Currently, my partner and I both work full-time jobs and we share the responsibility of taking care of our child. However, we find ourselves constantly struggling to juggle work deadlines, meetings, and parenting duties, without either one suffering. It's becoming increasingly difficult to give our child the attention they need while also meeting work responsibilities.

I would love to hear from other queer parents, specifically those who work in demanding jobs or have multiple children, about how they manage to balance their competing demands. Also, any tips or advice on how to create a schedule or structure that works for queer families with multiple parents would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you in advance for any insights or recommendations you can provide!

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jsmitham

Hello,

As a queer parent to three children, I understand the complexities of balancing work and parenting. My partner and I work full-time jobs, and our children are all in school, which presents some unique challenges in terms of managing school schedules, after-school activities and parental responsibilities.

One technique that has worked for us is to create a task list with each item marked in terms of its priority level. We sit down together to plan out our week ahead, outlining both work and family obligations. With this approach, we can divide tasks while ensuring that we are still available for family commitments, such as attending school open days, or taking the children to after-school clubs.

We also often make slight changes to our work schedule to cater to family needs wherever possible. For instance, our employer agrees to modify our schedules at work to help cater to our children's school event schedules. This way, we both take turns attending school events based on priority and are there for our children when needed.

Another tip is to delegate tasks to the children where possible. We give our children age-appropriate tasks, from simple chores to more complex responsibilities like looking after their younger siblings when we're busy. This gives us a little breathing space and also helps our children build independence and responsibility.

In conclusion, what works for us is to prioritize and plan out the week ahead, make slight adjustments to our work schedule whenever possible, and delegate some responsibilities to our children where possible. I hope these tips help you manage your work and family commitments as a queer parent.

xvandervort

Hi there,

As a queer parent of a two-year-old, I know all too well how difficult it can be to balance work and parenting. My partner and I both work full-time jobs and we share the responsibility of taking care of our child. It can be challenging to manage competing demands, but we've found some strategies that work well.

Firstly, we prioritize family time above everything else. We make sure that we schedule enough time to spend with our child and give them our undivided attention during those times. We try to plan activities that we all enjoy or that align with our child's interests, which helps to create some fun memories and make the most of our time together.

Secondly, we have found it helpful to set realistic expectations for both our work and parenting responsibilities. It can be difficult to achieve everything you've planned, especially when your child is young and demanding. We try to be flexible with our schedules and recognize that sometimes we'll need to make adjustments to prioritize our family's needs.

Finally, we make sure to communicate regularly with our employers, especially if we need to take time off for our child's needs, such as doctor's appointments or school events. We've been fortunate to work for understanding companies that value work-life balance, but it's essential to maintain open communication and be upfront about our priorities.

In conclusion, balancing work and parenting can be challenging, but it's possible with some planning, prioritization, and flexibility. As a queer parent, finding support from other parents in our community has also been instrumental in helping us manage competing demands.

thad40

Hello,

As a queer parent who works from home and also homeschools my children, I can attest to the challenges of balancing work and parenting. It can be tough to find a balance between working productively and ensuring our children are cared for and provided with the support they need.

One strategy that has been helpful for me is to create a designated workspace at home. This creates a clear boundary between my work and family life, and it also lets my children know when I'm working and should not be disturbed.

Another technique that works well is to use a time-management tool. I use a planner to schedule my work and homeschooling activities, and I also list down specific tasks for each day. Doing this lets me prioritize tasks based on urgency and enables me to work efficiently when I have time set out for work.

It's also important to communicate my schedule with my children and other people in my life that I need to work around. For example, my partner, who also works from home, and I have a shared calendar where we list our individual work schedules, including planned calls or meetings, so that we can plan and adjust our collective schedules accordingly.

In conclusion, balancing work and parenting as a queer parent can be challenging, but being organized and communicating your schedule well can help to manage competing demands. Creating a designated workspace, using a time management tool, and communicating with your family and colleagues are some of my best practices that have helped me significantly in managing both work and parenting.

trevor.abernathy

Hey there!

As a queer, single parent of a 4-year-old, balancing work and parenting can be quite challenging for me. I work full-time as a marketing manager, and there are times when I need to stay late or attend work events. However, I always prioritize my child's needs and try to find creative ways to manage my time.

One of the things that worked for me is being transparent with my employer about my schedule and my responsibilities as a parent. Fortunately, my employer is understanding and flexible, which allows me to work remotely or have flexible hours when necessary. I also ensure that I complete my work on time, to minimize any work-related stress.

Another hack I recommend is involving my child in my work schedule. Before attending any work-related event, I share that information with my child and explain why I need to attend. I also give them the opportunity to participate, for example, by picking out my outfit or helping me pack, which helps them feel included and appreciate why it's essential for me to work.

I find it helpful to have scheduled activities like playdates or visiting the park that I can look forward to with my child. These are dedicated times for my child, and I don't allow any work interruptions.

In summary, for me, transparency, flexibility, involving my child and scheduling activities are what work to balance work and parenting. I hope this helps you too.

altenwerth.stephon

Hi there,

As a queer parent of two children, I completely understand the struggles of balancing work and parenting. When my partner and I became parents, we both worked full-time jobs and quickly realized that we couldn't continue at the pace we were going.

To manage the competing demands, we decided to reduce our work hours and stagger our schedules. That way, one of us was always available to pick up the kids from daycare and take care of them in the evenings, while the other one worked. We also made sure to communicate our schedules with our employers, so they knew when we were available and could plan around our family's needs.

Another thing that worked for us was setting clear boundaries around work and family time. We would always make sure to put away our phones and laptops during family time, no matter what urgent work matter was at hand. This helped us to be fully present with our kids without any distractions.

Finally, we found it helpful to have a support network of other queer parents. We meet regularly with a group of LGBTQ+ families and we discuss the unique challenges we face as parents in our community. It's comforting to know that we're not alone in this journey and we can lean on each other for support.

I hope these tips help! Good luck with finding a schedule or structure that works for you and your family.

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