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Can anyone recommend books or resources for raising children with multiple identities, such as being both queer and a person of color?

Hi everyone,

I am a parent of a child who is both queer and a person of color. I am trying to find resources or books that could help me raise my child to be confident in their identities and navigate the challenges they may face. I want to make sure that my child feels seen and heard in a society that can be oppressive towards multiple identities.

Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.

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Hello there,

As a non-binary person of color, I understand the importance of feeling seen and heard in a world that can often make you feel invisible. One book that I highly recommend is "Gender Queer: Memoir" by Maia Kobabe. It is a graphic novel that explores the author's journey of discovering their non-binary identity and the challenges they face in a society that often only recognizes a binary gender system. It's a wonderful resource for parents looking to better understand and support their non-binary children.

In addition to educational resources, it's also important to prioritize mental health support for your child. Balancing multiple identities can be incredibly taxing on a person's mental health, and it's important to provide your child with resources to help them cope. This can include finding a queer and/or POC-friendly therapist, seeking out online support groups, or even encouraging your child to explore creative outlets like art or writing.

Lastly, always remember to center your child's voices and experiences in conversations about their identities. It's important to let them lead the way in how they self-identify and how they choose to express themselves. By validating their lived experiences, you can create a safe and inclusive environment for your child to thrive in.

Wishing you and your family all the best.


Hi there,

As someone who grew up in a mixed race household and identified as LGBTQ+, I can definitely understand the importance of finding resources to help support your child with multiple identities. One book that I found particularly helpful is "Raising Multiracial Children" by Farzana Nayani. It delves into the complexities of navigating multiple identities and provides insight on how to create a safe and inclusive environment for your child.

Another resource that I have found helpful is seeking out support from other parents who are raising children with similar identities. By connecting with other parents, you can share experiences and tips on how to navigate challenges that may arise. There are often local support groups or online communities that can provide a valuable support network.

Most importantly, I think it's important to continue to educate yourself on issues related to race and LGBTQ+ identity. This can help you better understand the challenges that your child may face and help you offer the best support possible.

Best of luck on your journey!


Greetings fellow parent,

As a parent myself to a child who identifies as both queer and a person of color, I completely understand how important it is to find resources to help support our children with multiple identities. One book that I found particularly insightful is "Sister Outsider" by Audre Lorde. Although not specifically written for parents, it is a collection of essays and speeches by Black lesbian feminist writer and activist Audre Lorde. Her work explores the intersectionality of race, gender, and sexuality and offers valuable insight on how to navigate multiple identities.

Another resource that has been helpful for our family has been finding representation in media. Encouraging your child to consume TV shows, movies, and books that feature characters with similar identities to theirs can really help to validate their experiences and make them feel less alone. Some of our family favorites include "Steven Universe," "She-Ra and the Princesses of Power," and "The Hate U Give" by Angie Thomas.

Lastly, I have found that seeking out culturally specific resources has also been helpful in understanding how to support my child's identities. For instance, attending events hosted by LGBTQ+ POC organizations or seeking out literature written by queer people of color has helped me to better understand the unique challenges that my child may face and how to provide the support they need.

Wishing you and your family all the best on this journey.


As someone who identifies as both queer and a person of color, I spent most of my childhood feeling like I didn't fit in anywhere. It wasn't until I found community with others who shared similar identities that I was able to embrace and celebrate all parts of myself.

Based on my personal experience, I highly recommend checking out the book "This Book Is Anti-Racist: 20 Lessons on How to Wake Up, Take Action, and Do the Work" by Tiffany Jewell. It is written for children and teens and includes lessons on intersectionality, diversity, and social justice. It can also be helpful to seek out organizations or events that celebrate and uplift the identities of your child, like attending LGBTQ+ pride events or joining a cultural club.

Remember to also have open and honest conversations with your child about their identities and the challenges they may face. Validate their experiences and offer support in any way that you can. It's important to let your child know that they are loved and accepted for who they are.


Hey there,

As someone who identifies as both queer and mixed-race, I think it's amazing that you are seeking resources to support your child's multiple identities. One book that I recommend is "All About Love: New Visions" by bell hooks. While not specifically written for parents, it provides valuable insight on how to cultivate a culture of love and acceptance in your family.

Another resource that has been helpful for me is connecting with other parents who have children with similar identities. One organization that has been particularly valuable for me is the National Queer and Trans Therapists of Color Network. Not only do they offer resources for mental health support, but they also offer workshops and events for both parents and children.

Lastly, don't be afraid to ask your child what they need from you in terms of support. Ultimately, your child knows themselves best, and by asking them what they need, you can better understand how to support them. Remember to center their identities and experiences in your conversations and always strive to create a safe and inclusive environment for them to thrive in.

I wish you and your family all the best on this journey, and I hope that you find the resources and support that you need!

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