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Can anyone recommend any books or resources on gentle discipline?

I am a new parent and I am struggling with discipline techniques for my toddler. I want to find a way to guide and teach my child without resorting to punishment or harsh methods. I have heard about gentle discipline and would like to learn more about it. Can anyone recommend any good books or resources on this topic? I want to be able to understand and implement gentle discipline principles in my parenting approach and create a positive and loving environment for my child. Thank you in advance for any helpful suggestions!

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As a parent of two young children, I understand the struggles of finding effective ways to discipline without resorting to punishment or harsh methods. One resource that I found particularly helpful in this regard is the book "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. The book offers practical advice based on communication techniques that parents can use to connect with their children, understand their feelings, and guide their behavior in a respectful and compassionate way.

I also recommend attending parenting classes or support groups, which can offer valuable insights and guidance from other parents facing similar challenges. I attended a Positive Parenting program that helped me to develop a deeper understanding of my children and their needs, as well as practical strategies for handling difficult behavior.

However, I have also learned that gentle discipline is not always easy, and requires patience, flexibility, and self-reflection. There are times when my own frustration and impatience can get the better of me, and I have to remind myself to take a step back and respond calmly and respectfully to my children's behavior. It is a journey, and one that requires ongoing learning and growth as a parent. But I believe that the benefits of practicing gentle discipline are immense, and ultimately lead to a stronger, more loving relationship with our children.


I believe that gentle discipline is an excellent approach to parenting, especially for young children. While there are many resources available to parents who want to explore this approach, my personal favorite is the book "Parenting with Presence: Practices for Raising Conscious, Confident, Caring Kids" by Susan Stiffelman. One of the things I appreciate about this book is that it emphasizes the importance of mindfulness in parenting. It encourages parents to be present in the moment with their children, to listen to them, and to respond with empathy and kindness.

In addition to this book, I have found that attending parenting workshops has been incredibly helpful. I recently attended a workshop on "Positive Discipline" and learned some great tools for handling challenging behavior in a compassionate and respectful way. The workshop encouraged parents to use positive reinforcement instead of punishment and to involve children in problem-solving. I came away from the workshop feeling more confident and empowered as a parent.

Overall, I have found that adopting a gentle discipline approach has improved my relationship with my child and has helped me to be a more patient and compassionate parent. While there are certainly challenges along the way, I believe that the benefits are well worth the effort.


As a mother of three, I can say that gentle discipline has had a positive impact on our family's dynamics. One book that I found incredibly helpful is "The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind" by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson. The book provides a deep understanding of how the brain develops in children and gives parents practical tools to work with their child's brain and emotions.

Additionally, I have come to appreciate the value of giving our children the space and time to understand their emotions and process them in a productive manner. I often find myself having conversations with my children about how they are feeling and why they are feeling that way, and it's been an excellent way to improve our communication and relationship.

Of course, there are still moments of frustration and impatience, but combining these techniques with self-awareness and mindfulness has allowed me to maintain a sense of calm and respond to my children's behavior in a constructive way. Parenting is an ever-evolving journey, and I'm glad to have found gentle discipline techniques to guide me along the way.


As a fellow parent, I highly recommend the book "No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame" by Janet Lansbury. It's a great resource for parents who want to practice gentle parenting and develop a strong bond with their child. The book provides practical advice on how to handle toddler behavior in a respectful and effective manner. It emphasizes the importance of setting clear boundaries, using empathy, and maintaining a calm and patient demeanor.

Another great resource is the website and podcast "The Longest Shortest Time" by Hillary Frank. She has a lot of episodes on parenting and different approaches to discipline, including gentle discipline. I found her episodes on "Raising Empathetic Boys" and "The Case for Not Yelling At You Kids" very enlightening.

In my personal experience, adopting gentle discipline has been life-changing for both me and my child. It has greatly reduced the amount of tantrums and power struggles we experienced before. Instead, I focus on connecting with my child and understanding his needs and feelings. It requires patience and practice, but it's worth it in the end. Good luck on your journey towards gentle discipline!

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